Over the years, Courtney and I have had our share of off-the-beaten-path crushes. Courtney in particular is good at finding the princely qualities in the most froggish of men. I don't know where Courtney initially developed her ability to be so forgiving, but I definitely had a moment in college when I realized that class was just a lot more interesting if I could find it in my heart to be hot for the professor. Let's face it, every single person on earth has his or her attractive qualities. Isn't it a much nicer world when we can focus on the alluring aspects of one another? I am here to tell you that once your 19-year-old mind has been opened to the hotness of your music theory teacher, it's really not that big a leap to find almost anyone attractive. Courtney and I still have weekly conversations about men in the periphery of our lives who have in some small way managed to capture our fancy.
Way back in 1995 Courtney and I met a man who forever altered the way we discuss our crushes. We were participating in a month long "winter term" seminar with the Turtle Island String Quartet. The personnel of the group has since changed, but at the time they had a guy named Tracy Silverman playing violin who was, by almost anyone's standards, pretty good looking. Tracy Silverman was the obvious heartthrob for twenty-year-olds to chose (and Courtney and I did spend a fair amount of time admiring him), but somehow our conversation always came back to the violist, Danny Seidenberg. Although Danny wasn't as typically good looking, he was funny and laid back, and even though he had a mustache (of all things), he also had a certain....something. Over the course of the week, Danny became a growing obsession with Courtney and me, and the more we discussed his fine qualities, the hotter he became. We were in the midst of what we would later (and forever more) refer to as, The Danny Seidenberg Effect.
Courtney and I have slightly differing opinions about the definition of The Danny Seidenberg effect, but to me an essential aspect of The Effect is the conscious and willing decision to be hot for a guy who wouldn't ordinarily light your fire. It's an intellectual crush, not so much in that you are hot for the guy's intellect, but in that you use your own to decide, "Hey, this guy has some awfully charming characteristics. I'm going to have a girlish crush on him." The Danny Seidenberg Effect doesn't apply to guys you are actually in a position to date, it merely exists to make daily life more interesting. Because of the age difference, Danny Seidenberg would have made an unrealistic boyfriend, but having and discussing my crush on him was highly enjoyable.
I encourage everyone to open their hearts to The Danny Seidenberg Effect!
(private to Danny Seidenberg: This being the 21st century [and since I made no effort to change your name] you will eventually find this post. It would terrible if you took this in any way other than a loving tribute. Also, when I googled your name in search of a picture, I was pleased to find that you are still in fact, quite hot.)
Coming soon to Oh For Fun......The David Filner Syndrome.